![]() We will be strong.Īnd as quickly as we were celebrating, we were mourning. Impatiently sitting on the F-train I tried to play the story out in my head:ġ. I sprang up and rushed to the train, tears streaming without permission. I waited at one of our favorite cafe’s while they went to that fateful sonogram, imagining that being in one of our “holy places” would shift the pending news positively. I remember another call the one where the news changed. Ancient ways of tricking the universe because apparently Mother Nature hates a premature celebration. Don’t buy baby clothes, toys, books, etc. I did the best I could to show the picture of excitement to my expecting best friends and when we hung up, overwhelmed, I cried one of many private moments I’ve had over the past year.Ĭue old wives tales: Don’t tell people until "x" amount of time has passed. We were going to have a baby (yes, I said “we”). The whole family joyously shouting in the background as Becca and Chris told me over the little iPhone screen ( I was out of town and they couldn't wait) that after some time of “not trying” ( sure. I remember the first call the one where they told me the good news. S ometimes it feels like time is moving without our permission. Without further ado I will hand the mic over to my BFF-4-Eva (that's what our matching heart necklaces say, at least), Jeremy : Their personal experience of it and their perspective, just like their presence, is a pathway to healing. I asked Jeremy to share his story of my miscarriage and I hope once the dust has settled in your situation, you ask your friends to do the same. The role of the friend in the midst of this particular type of heartbreak is so crucial and should be honored. I think that's why Jeremy was able to be such a rock for me. In my opinion, to be a support to someone going through this, it is not about saying the "right thing", it's not about understanding everything fully, it's just about being fully present with your friend and sometimes in order to do that, your friend needs to be fully present with their own experience of your miscarriage. I am also not blind to the fact that his support didn't exist without some personal emotional cost. I know that I, for one, could not have gotten though this experience without Jeremy's support and the support of so many of my friends. And if you are out there reading this because your friend, or sister, or coworker just went through a miscarriage, I think it's important to know you are not alone in that confusing, sensitive, and heart wrenching position. I figured if my best friend was going to have to pick up crumpled tissues, and make me tea, and listen to totally irrational panic and profound grief, the LEAST I could do is offer a forum in which his perspective could be heard. I have been ever-so-gently badgering my best friend Jeremy ( everyone's favorite Ever Forward Blog recurring character) to do a Guest Blog entry because I think it is so important for the friends and family of those who miscarry to have a voice in this as well. My miscarriage had a marked ripple effect to which all of my nearest and dearest were subject ( sorry, peeps). ![]() Need a great gift for a mother, a grandmother, or a BFF? This thoughtful monogrammed necklace is always a welcome addition to any lady’s jewelry collection and is sure to be cherished for many years.Miscarriage effects more than just the person carrying the pregnancy. Coordinate this stunning monogrammed heart pendant necklace with other personalized styles. Don’t miss our other personalized jewelry items available at Marleylilly, including monogrammed rings, monogrammed earrings, and monogrammed bracelets. Pair this 18-inch personalized necklace with a choker and a long pendant necklace for a layered look. This monogrammed toggle necklace features an elegant heart-shaped 20 mm disc that is engraved with your choice of monogram style - create a personalized look with our exclusive preview tool. It also features a Marleylilly “ML” logo charm disc on the back. It has a cable chain with a textured chain surface that is unique and stunning. This personalized necklace features an attractive toggle clasp that is easy to put on and to take off. Instantly add some personality and sparkle to your outfit with our Monogrammed Heart Pendant Necklace, available in either silver or gold-toned finishes.
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